Potty training 101

So I really don't know what to do with this boy! DJ my littlest boy is going to be 4 in just a couple weeks and he refuses to poop on the toilet. I've talked to a lot of parents who have had the same issue but no advice has worked. He's supposed to start preschool in a little under a month and if I can't get him completely potty trained he won't be able to go. Has anyone ever been through this that can give any advice on what may work?

Stronger than we realize

Life...it's what you make of it, right? I do believe this but when you're "sick", like myself and so many others it's hard to follow that.  Depression IS a real disease,  it's a horrible illness that so many people have to live with in a society that is so unaccepting of the fact that it truly is a disease and not a weakness. Depression is a daily struggle, not only because of the feelings we encounter every minute of every day but because we have to hide and keep so many things bottled up so we aren't looked down upon.  I can't tell you how many times I've been told to "get over" it, fake it, etc...it's not that easy! Some people may think that we are just weak, we may think we're weak but the reality of it is we are STRONG. I'm still here; even after so many times of wanting to give up and call it quits, I'm still here living this nightmare...I am strong!

Nothing is perfect

I guess the first time is always the hardest...in any situation.  I sit here not knowing where to begin; so much in my head but so much more confusion that won't allow me to get all my thoughts together.  I've been told before that I'm a wonderful writer and maybe that's true, but it would only be because it takes me many attempts to write the perfect thing...this is going to be something totally different.  I'm going to be writing as I'm thinking the thoughts, and instead of trying to go back and make it "perfect", I'm going to just write(some may say ramble) without the attempts. 
I don't believe in perfection,  I'm not perfect...I don't think anyone is...I think we all have that one thing we can do maybe better than the next.  Lately I feel like I can't do anything "perfect" let alone right, I guess that's what happens when your life is falling apart.  20 years is a long time to get comfortable with the life we have made for ourselves, so when it all starts changing, I guess it's normal to think you can't do anything right.
Today is the beginning of something new(in a couple ways now that I'm thinking about it); what I've learned to know over the last 20 yrs is over(whether good or bad, how I've learned to live will all be new), and for the first time ever...I'm going to he putting myself out there for all to judge.  I was told the other day by a very close friend that I hide things well...well guess what, I don't want to hide anymore. I want that "perfect" life, I want to be happy...I don't want to have to fake it.